The Times reports that a new national study found that 1 in 4 girls age 14 to 19 has a sexually transmitted disease. Thinks that’s a bad number?
Nearly half the African-Americans in the study of teenagers ages 14 to 19 were infected with at least one of the diseases monitored in the study — human papillomavirus (HPV), chlamydia, genital herpes and trichomoniasis, a common parasite.
I’ve been reading lately about the biological realities of young adulthood and how this subtext gives rise to complex cultural norms (slightly heterocentric and esoteric, but bare with me).
The danger of childbirth in the hunter-gatherer context, the risk of anemia due to menstruation and childbirth, and the relatively long period of close parental involvement required to raise a human, co-emerges with:
-The entrainment of ovulatory cycles among close social relations helping to coordinate the distribution of sexual involvement in small clans
-The use of fire (the Promethean secret) to cook meat for an otherwise vegetarian by design helping to allay the risks of anemia
-During the spike in pre-teen male testosterone girls 11-14 experience relative size parity or dominance and anovulatory menstruation (a pre-modern phenomenon occuring less and less) making childbirth less likely
The entrainment of menstruation with the moon makes women the first in the species to understand “deep time.” Deep time aides in hunting animals for meat and eventually becomes the cornerstone adaptive advantage for humans among other animals.
The argument goes that in this biological context, human women become the first female on earth to “choose” their “partners.” There are other monogamous species but most of the others are generally pliant to estrus regulated sexual activity. Human women can have sex at anytime of the cycle and refuse sex at anytime of the cycle. Human women arguably have the most dramatic orgasms of any living animal. But, to attain this they need patient (read good father, diligent hunter) partners.
In many cultures the result of this biological framework is that sex is thought of as something that women give to men. It is a secret that men desire to unlock or in some case to stamp out. Culture is also the strata on which a backlash against the human female’s unique qualities has taken place. The honoring of mensturation became the vilification of it. The first rights of women hood, became the first burdens. We cannot discuss sex with out acknowledging the way power has been inscribed through gender and biology.
Why do I bring all of this up? Because I would argue the along with a re-framing of sexual pleasure and sex-positive personal responsibility, we have to reconsider some of the behaviors that we have developed as a response to the repressive anti-female cultural practices that exist throughout our history. I don’t think it is enough to admonish youth to understand themselves and their desires better. I would argue that they crave a set of parameters within which they can experiment sexually. In many ways young people are as much curious as they are horny. Suppressing this curiosity is just as damaging as suppressing the act of sex itself. However, though it has been twisted, the puritanical prohibition of teenage female sexuality holds in it a grain of wisdom. This grain of truth is that young women have a vastly greater set of risks to deal with in being active sexually.
Can we then imagine a world in which youth choose to be sexual beings before being sexual actors? This is an almost unspeakable conundrum outside of fundamentalist communities. I think the answer lies in the body itself. The teenage body must express its new found energies and tendencies. But, perhaps these expressions should not be bound by tradition or convention of either the puritanical or the cosmopolitan sort.
We might have some examples in youth sports which is commonly referred to as an “outlet” for young people’s energy. That might be a start, but unfortunately, some sports settings also encourage a very traditional understanding of gender among youth. I need only tell you some of the stories from my high school soccer team days as evidence. I think a more conscious approach to this balancing act could yield all sorts of ideas about what teenagers can do with their bodies so that the need for sexual expression is honored without elevating the act of sex to a level of obsessive interest that overrides their needs for safety and health. I suspect that if we look back at the traditional cultural activities of our own bloodlines, we will find various ways in which youth were able to express their sexual desires constructively. I am imaging a village crowded around the youth who are performing a courting dance.
I am not advocating abstinence (per se). Young people are going to have sex. But when 12 year old girls are performing oral sex at school (a story that I have heard but can’t prove) we can be sure that there are forces at work that should not be met with approval and acquiescence. I think that respecting the deep connection between the mind and body and the evolutionary history that our minds and bodies express can lead us to creative constructive approaches to honoring the sexual desires of our youth. Some may cringe at the idea of a resurgent traditionalism that teaches young girls to treat sex like a commodity that needs to be horded. I am only interested however, in the traditional to the extent that it honors the feminine (and the masculine). What if we combined the communal aspects of traditional societies with the respect for personal freedom and self-expression of the modern West. This, to me, is the challenge before us. This hybrid cultural framework will not tell people who to sleep with, but it also will not tell people that they should sleep with any and everybody. What if parents and teachers stepped in front of BET and MTV, but instead of taking up the role of guard they took up the role of guides.
For more on human evolution and sexuality (including some not so heterocentric ideas), check out:
The Third Chimpanzee by Jared Diamond
Sex, Time, and Power by Leonard Shlain